During a recent executive coaching session, a client used the phrase "soft skills" and I cringed. Gratefully, the Jersey girl in me didn't immediately confront the person. I have learned sometimes it is best to "stop, drop and roll." Not literally like the fire safety technique, but figuratively: Stop (don't react), drop (pause and take a breath) and roll (get some space out so I can dig into what bugged me).
Over the past month I have been speaking with graduates from workshops I led earlier this year (Managing Corporate Change© and Women Moving Forward®). This is an additional service always offered to participants so we can check in, answer questions and discuss how they are applying skills developed in the training.
It has been quite a year! One year ago we were shutting down. Sheltering at home. Trying to purchase hand sanitizer and toilet paper. Figuring out how to shop, meet, work, teach and learn virtually. Talk about change! So much so fast. So many emotions. So much loss. And yet also so much gained.
As we eagerly said adios to 2020, and expectantly looked forward to the new year starting, vaccines rolling out and hope for a much better 2021, who could imagine January would be even more tumultuous? Yet it was. Highs and Lows and shocking disbelief as our capital was attacked. As I watched the videos of the attack, it struck me how angry the protesters were. And I thought, what is under all the anger? I knew there had to be more under the anger, since anger is a presenting emotion, or as I like to call it, brown paint (there are many colors underneath the color brown, as there are emotions under the presenting emotion of anger). Was it fear? Was it disbelief? Was is betrayal? Was it all of them?
Throughout this past year, one of my favorite things were your comments and feedback. They were encouraging and appreciated. Thank you! Here is one that I enjoyed from last months blog: Is Hope a Strategy?
"I wanted you to know how much I enjoyed this piece on hope. As someone who has used the phrase "hope is not a strategy" LITERALLY in the past week, your commentary really brought me up short. Thanks for making me think..."
"Hope is not a strategy," or so the saying goes. I am sure you have heard that before, perhaps you have said it yourself. And maybe even believe it - I did. I suspect that is because of the way it was framed up. You need plans. You need action steps. You need choices (aka strategies). And to simply hope, well that is foolish. Hope is not enough.
What a summer it was. What a year it is. As we plow into fall, I had the opportunity to look back and reflect on the past few months. Not much was accomplished but so much achieved. I am grateful. Grateful for the learning. Grateful for the extra time. Slowly I learn. Slowly I turn. Learning to enjoy today. Turning towards Here. Now. What's Now.
Earlier this month we held our third virtual connect for graduates of Women Moving Forward® (in-house workshops). We started this in April, as a way to support folks during the pandemic. In addition to checking in on how everyone is doing, each time I also have a question for the group. The question this month was "what are you holding on to that you need to let go of?" There were some great answers. The most popular response by far was control.
What a year. The pandemic has slowed things down, for sure. For me, that isn't all bad. More time at home. Less time on airplanes. More time with family and an amazing opportunity to learn. Learn about ourselves, about others, about our communities and country. Where we are strong and where we have cracks. What we should celebrate and what we still need to work on.
I know you want to say 55. Five + Fifty equals 55, right? Well, not in this case. It was 5 years ago that I started this new business, company and career. And since then I have written 50 blogs (this blog is #50!) So for me, Five + Fifty = Three.
So here we are, most of us still sheltering at home. Week 6? Candidly, I try not to count. And at the same time there are many modern day heroes helping us through these strange and stressful times. We are so grateful for you.
Earlier this year, you likely heard about Christina Koch and her record-breaking space mission: 328 days in space! In the CNN article, her message is to "follow your passions, live the life you've imagined and do what scares you." But what really struck me was how she handled those 328 days, isolated from her loved ones and her planet. Her world as she knew it. During her time away, Christina chose to focus on the fact that her time in the space station was special rather than focus on what she missed on earth. And that led to a new appreciation for what she left behind upon returning to earth 328 days later.